The biblical concept of marriage is rooted in the principle of oneness. In Genesis 2:24, Scripture declares, _“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”_ This unity is not merely physical but encompasses emotional, spiritual, and practical dimensions. When a husband and wife truly grasp this divine design, they cease to view their lives as separate paths and instead see themselves as one entity, sharing in both the triumphs and the trials of life.
In a marriage that follows God’s order, the success of one partner becomes the success of both, and the struggle of one becomes a shared burden. Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 affirms this: _“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.”_ *A thriving husband does not ignore a struggling wife, and a thriving wife does not distance herself from a struggling husband.* Rather, the strength of the one is poured into the other, creating resilience that reflects Christ’s selfless love for the Church.
Practically speaking, this means that *marriage involves intentional support.* If one partner faces financial hardship, the other steps in to strategise, encourage, and perhaps take on additional responsibilities. If one wrestles with emotional pain or spiritual dryness, the other prays, listens, and speaks life-giving words. This is not enabling weakness but bearing one another’s burdens as commanded in Galatians 6:2, _“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.”_ Such support strengthens the bond and reflects the heart of servanthood that Jesus modelled.
By God’s grace, this is how my wife and I have chosen to operate in our own marriage. We see ourselves as one unit, not two separate individuals. My wife and I, through the grace of God, have continued to lift each other, fulfilling the biblical purpose of oneness in marriage. *When I have been weary or under pressure, she has stood beside me with encouragement, prayer, and practical help. When she has faced challenges, I have done the same for her. We share our resources, ideas, and responsibilities, guarding our unity and covering one another spiritually.* This way of life has kept us grounded in love and has become a testimony to others that marriage works best when God’s design is followed.
As I conclude this short essay, let it state clearly that, *there is no struggling wife beside a thriving husband, and vice versa, when both truly live out the biblical vision of oneness.* Understanding that they are one flesh compels each to respond to the other’s struggle with compassion and action. In doing so, they embody the spirit of Philippians 2:4, _“Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”_ A marriage shaped by this principle becomes a testimony of God’s grace, where lifting one another is not an occasional act but a lifestyle.
May our marriages prosper. Amen
We are not alone.
God is with us.
Gershinen Paul Dajur
Wednesday, August 13, 2025
